A Long Awaited Update

Finally! Some pictures of Caleb for you all. I snapped these a week or two ago as he was waking up from a nap. I couldn't resist... he looked so cute. Caleb has been at home with us for about a month now, and he's turned out to be quite a happy and content baby. I would say that out of the three of us, he's probably doing the best.

Here he is looking sleepy...


A little smile...


Back to sleep...




And now for an update on me... since so many of you have been asking. As most of you know I was in the hospital in Calgary for just over 2 weeks. I don't remember a thing about the accident-- total memory loss of that event, so I can't give any details about that. As I was being airlifted from the scene of the accident to Calgary I started to wake up a little bit. My first clear memories were in the ICU in Calgary signing consent for surgery-- even though at the time I had no idea what it was for. That first surgery they removed all of the glass from my arm, left shoulder, head, and hands. When I woke up they assured me that the baby was doing fine, and that he was in stable condition. I was told that he would be staying put for the time being. I was also made aware of all my injuries. Let me set the record straight of what was wrong with me: a good part of my left shoulder was missing-- skin, tissue, muscle, it was a hole about 6x3 inches. My left arm, right hand and scalp was shredded by flying glass. My T4 (a vertebrae) was fractured, there was some bleeding in my brain, and my jaw was broken. About 3-4 hours after the first surgery Caleb's heartrate started dropping. The nurses started running around the room and began to ask me if I was having contractions. I said no-- on morphine and still woozy from surgery I had no idea what was going on. Within a few minutes they had me in surgery for an emergency C-section. Doug wasn't allowed in the room since it was a risky surgery-- At that point they were not sure if my spine was stable-- so they had 3 teams of surgeons on hand: 1 performing the C-section, 1 team for Caleb, and 1 to operate on my spine if something went wrong. It went well, and within 12 hours I had already completed surgery number 2. That's the story of Caleb's birth. Not exactly as we had planned.
This began my stay in the hospital. In total I had 5 surgeries... some more pleasant than others. They ended up operating on my shoulder 4 times. I never saw what it looked like originally, but it already looks so much better 6 weeks later. The plastic surgeons ended up taking skin from my hip and grafted it onto my shoulder to cover the hole. It's going to leave a terrible scar, but at least I still have a shoulder. They also wired my jaw shut to allow it to heal. That's made for an interesting few weeks eating every meal from a straw.
For the most part I've tried to be postive about my physical injuries... knowing that my body would eventually heal. However, there's been some bad news in the past few weeks. The oral surgeon I've been seeing here in Abbotsford told me that my jaw had been set wrong by the doctors in Calgary. As a result, there's been some nerve damage-- my chin and a part of my lip is numb, and will most likely always be like numb, and there's a chance that my bite might be off. I had 2 options-- to leave it wired shut for the remainder of the 6 weeks, hope it heals okay even though it wasn't set correctly in the first place, and learn to live with the numbness. Or they could redo the surgery, and try to reconnect the nerves and wire me shut for another 6 weeks. I chose the first option, and on Wednesday my jaw will be unwired. Pray that my jaw has healed correctly, despite it being set incorrectly. Another surgery and 6 weeks of the blender is hard to take in.
Today brought more disappointment. Last week Doug and I asked one of my doctors about the placement of my shoulder. There is a large lump protruding in the front of my shoulder that looks so out of place. He sent us for x-rays immediately, since he agreed that it look a bit strange. The results came in today-- my shoulder is dislocated and one of the bones (can't remember which one) was broken in several places or "shattered" as the doctor put it. This came as quite a shock since not one of my doctors in Calgary ever said anything about my shoulder being out of place or anything being fractured. It's a complicated issue, since they are going to have to put it back into place and fix the damage while dealing with the skin graft and major damage to the muscles and tissue around the bones. I can't describe how disappointed and frustrated I've been today. I've been working so hard going to physio to try to regain use of my shoulder, only to find out that I'm starting back at square one. We will most likely be seeing a shoulder specialist in the next few days, so hopefully we will have some answers soon.
That's the update on how I've been recovering physically. I wish I could give you a run down on how I've been healing emotionally/mentally, but unfortunately you can't see or measure how that process is coming along. Simply put, I miss Nate, and I can't believe he's not here. So many times over the past few weeks I've thought about a converstation the 4 of us had in the car the morning of the accident. We started to think about the past 5 years and began to share about what our plans for the future had been 5 years ago. We all acknowleged that we had ended up in different places than expected. Nate then suggested that we each share about our plans for the next 5 years of life. We all had remarkably similar goals and aspirations-- kids, ministry, missions. It was exciting to think and dream of the future. If we had only known how quickly those plans would change. To be honest, I don't think my heart understands that Nate is gone for good. I didn't really have the chance to say goodbye to him, since I was stuck in the hospital in Calgary during the funeral. It almost feels like I came home and he's just been missing temporarily. Everyone had a chance to say goodbye except for me. How does one grieve? I have no idea how to do this or what this process is like. All I know is that I miss him, and I hurt every time I think about Doug without his brother, Rosanna without her husband, Doug's parents without their son.
Never before have I had so many questions for God, and so few answers. I'm overwhelmed with emotions of anger and thankfulness at the same time. I'm thankful that God chose to spare my son, that I can walk and talk after being close to losing both of those abilities, and that Doug is still here beside me. And yet I'm angry at times, and question why this had to happen. Doesn't God know that we needed Nate here?
All I know at this time is that God love me and that understands my pain. There were several sleepless nights that I lay in my hospital bed feeling so alone, scared about the surgery I was facing the next morning, and like life was totally out of control. In the middle of the night I would pull out the Ipod I was borrowing and would listen to this song by Casting Crowns again and again in the dark.

I was sure by now that You would have reached down
And wiped our tears away
Stepped in and saved the day
But once again, I say "Amen" and it's still raining
As the thunder rolls I barely hear
You whisper through the rain "I'm with you"
And as your mercy falls I raise my hand and praise the God who gives
And takes away
I'll praise you in this storm and I will lift my hands
For You are who You are no matter where I am
Every tear I've cried You hold in your hand
You never left my side and though my heart is torn
I will praise You in this storm
I remember when I stumbled in the wind
You heard my cry, You raised me up again
My strength is almost gone, how can I carry on
If I can't find You?
I lift my eyes unto the hills
Where does my help come from?
My help comes from the Lord
The Maker of Heaven and Earth

The words describe exactly how I've felt over these past few weeks. I don't know why this has happened to us, I don't understand it and probably never will, but I still choose to praise God and trust that he will see us through this storm.

It's A Boy...

Caleb Nathan Toews

Born July 21, 2007

5 lbs 5 ounces, 18 inches long

Our Trip in Pictures

WARNING: the following post contains a lot of pictures with not a lot of writing.

As many of you know, Doug and I took a little vacation this past weekend to good old Waldheim, Saskatchewan. Here's what we did and saw!

Flying Westjet was wonderful (except for the time with the turbulance, the falling flight attendant, and, oh yeah, other passengers getting sick on the plane). Other than one rough flight, it was so nice to fly and not drive all the way there!


Doug and I managed to make it out to the wedding ceremony of some friends of ours, Tim and Erica. It was a beautiful ceremony (Erica-- you were gorgeous! I loved your dress!!!) and we were pretty surprised to see so many of our Bethany friends! Here's a few shots of the lovely couple.

Since we were so nicely dressed up from the wedding, Doug and I snapped a few pictures on my parent's front porch. Here's a family of 2, soon to be 3!

And of course, what's a photo session without a pregnancy picture! Here I am at 30 weeks! (For all you pregnant ladies out there, I recommend looking at Superstore if you need a maternity dress-- I found mine for 11.97, and I liked it a whole lot better than any of those tents they sell at Thyme!)

The highlight of the trip was spending time with my 2 beautiful sisters, Trisha (in the pink) and Angela (the white). They are so excited about the baby, and can't wait to be aunties. Of course we had to take a picture of the Aunties with the belly.

Here's Joel, my little brother (or not so little anymore) getting in on the action.

Here's one with the puppy trying to sneak into the picture!

What's a trip to the farm without a trip out to the barn? While we were there, these two little twin lambs were born, lambs #201 and 202! They sure are cute, but they can be pretty noisy when they're all bah-ing at the same time.

A couple of days before we got there, my parents got a new puppy for the farm! He was so shy on Friday when we got there, but by the end of the weekend, he couldn't wait for someone to come outside and play with him. What a cute little puppy. I sure was tempted to bring him home with me!

Well, that's it folks. It fun to see everyone, but it could have been longer. Isn't it always that way? It's crazy to think that the next time we head out to Waldheim to visit my family, we'll have a baby! Excuse me while I have a panic session.

My Weekend Report

I hope everyone else had a good weekend! Doug and I had a pretty busy one, but it was good nonetheless. On Saturday Erik and Micah came over to help Doug out with some electrical work that needed to be done in our place. Erik helped Doug install a couple light fixtures, while Micah and I had a great time playing. He sure had a good time jumping on Auntie's bed. I think he was more excited when I came and jumped with him. It must have looked pretty hilarious, a 6 1/2 month pregnant woman jumping on the bed. No wonder he was laughing and shouting "Jump Auntie Elissa, jump!"

He also got some valuable hours of coloring in. He's working pretty intently on that picture.

Sunday was busy for Doug and I, since we were leading worship at our church. Even though it can be a long morning of setting up, taking down, etc. it still was fun to play and was a meaningful morning of worship for us. We also managed to hang out with friends during the afternoon, make a trip to Home Depot to research some options of for replacing our shower (it's going to be a big project!), and spent some time and Mom and Dad Toews' for Father's Day. Today, I ended up taking the afternoon off from work to go get my hair done. My hairdresser (the best one ever) it leaving on holidays for several weeks, so I had to fight to get an appointment, but I managed to squeeze one in. Even though I may feel uncomfortable, large, and tired of being pregnant at times, I can at least have great hair! Don't you think? Here's a couple pictures of the finished product.

I think this week will fly by pretty quickly. I have a full day of work tomorrow, Wednesday is a day of meetings, Thursday the girls and I are being sent to the spa for the day by our boss (yeah!) and on Friday, Doug and leave for Saskatchewan! We will be there for the weekend and fly home on Monday night. Even though it's a short trip, it will be nice to get away and see my family. Well, that's it for now! Hopefully I'll see some of you Saskatchewan folk this weekend!

Sunday Afternoon Pics

Doug and I spent the afternoon spending some time with family. It was good practice hanging out with the niece and nephew, getting some practice. Doug spent some time playing T-ball with Micah. Check out that swing!

Meanwhile, I got some practice feeding Miss Keziah her bottle.

Here they both are, getting ready for bed. Doug really admired Keziah's sleepwear. He'd love a pair of pajamas like these in his size. Any ideas where I could find them?

And as promised, here are some pictures of me and the baby. As of this weekend, we are now at 28 weeks. Not too many more to go!

The Month of May

I know, it's been a long time since my last post, but let me tell you, sometimes blogging seems more like work after I've been sitting at my computer all day in the office! However, Doug and I have been up to quite a bit lately, and I guess it's time to update everyone on our lives. Let's start at the beginning. Well, first of all, my sister Angie came out to visit us for the first week of May! We did some fun stuff together, like heading down to Bellingham for some Target and supper at Billy McHale's (I would highly recommend Billy's, let me tell you. So would Rosanna, right?). We also spent a day down in Vancouver doing some sightseeing, shopping on Robson, and eating out. Here's a few pic's of us enjoying a beautiful day down in Vancouver with our beautiful sister.

Unfortunately, we were not able to spend the entire week doing just fun stuff. We also put Ang to work. On April 30th Doug and I took possession of our new condo. Let me tell you, it was definitely not move in ready. In fact, it was so shabby (and actually disgusting) that I wouldn't have let my own pet live there (if I had one). So we started tearing it apart. We ripped out a wall, all the carpets, all the baseboards and mouldings, and the light fixtures. Doug's dad was over at our place everyday that first week helping us get all the work done. After all the demo was completed, we painted everything, installed laminate in the kitchen and living room, had new carpet installed in the bedrooms, and put up all new mouldings. Unfortunately, we are still working on our place. We've made it our goal to get at least 1 thing done each night after we get home from work, and we also have weekend projects. At this point, we have a couple more light fixtures to put up, the countertops need to be replaced, and Doug is working on building us new kitchen cabinets and bathroom vanities. Hopefully it will all be done by the time the baby arrives at the end of summer! Here's a couple pictures of the demo!

Not only did Angie come to visit us this month, but my Mom and my little brother Joel also came out to see us! Joel was playing in the National V-ball tournament here in Abbotsford, so we spent the weekend watching his team play. We also had a little fun together too. Red Robin's is alway fun, right guys?

Here's Joel focusing in on the court. Isn't he cute?

Well, I think that pretty much covers what we've been up to this month. Once we finish off a few more things I'll try to put some before and after pic's of our place on my blog. I'll also have to take another pic of my fairly large belly one of these days. I think I've run out of room in my non-maternity shirts, and I might have to head out and buy some maternity ones. They're just so expensive, especially since I'll only be wearing them for another 3 months! Besides outgrowing my clothes, this pregnancy has been pretty good so far. I've been pretty comfortable these past few weeks, and pretty much back to my "normal" self. I feel like I have lots of energy, I am still enjoying work, and I love knowing that there's a baby on the way! Even though we haven't had a whole lot of time to think about the baby and get ready for it (we have been pretty busy with our house), it's been so fun to feel the baby moving and kicking. I think we may have an active child on our hands, since this kid is out of control some days. One night I balanced the TV remote on my stomach, only to have it kicked off! I'm pretty sure it's doing gymnastics in there. Anyways, I think that's all I have for now. Hope you all enjoy the pictures and the little update!

20+ Weeks and Counting,,,

Okay, just so you all know (Bonnie), I had great intentions of posting some pictures on Monday. Jamie took some this weekend and emailed them to me at work, so I had no excuse. But I do have an excuse! I couldn't get them to load properly into Blogger from work! Finally today I figured out how to do it, so here they are!
Doug and I had a fun weekend hanging out with friends and family. We watched a little hockey, tried to get some packing started (since we are moving into our new place on Apr. 30th!!), led worship at our church Sunday morning, and spent time with our precious niece and nephew. Below is a picture of Doug struggling to hold a crying Keziah. Are we ready to be parents? That's the question that keeps running through my mind...

And here's me at 20 weeks! I am seriously getting bigger and bigger each day. The baby has been very active over the past few weeks as well. I'm pretty sure it spends most of the day kicking and stretching its limbs!

18 Weeks Update

I guess it's time for another update! My mom and sisters have been begging me to post some more pictures, so here they are! As of this weekend, the baby has been growing for 18 weeks, and it seems to be getting bigger every morning when I wake up! At this point it's surprising how fast this pregnancy seems to be going. All of a sudden the nine months is almost half over!

Here's a close up shot of my growing belly!

I think this pregnancy has been going by so fast because Doug and I have been so busy lately... buying our first home! This past week we signed the final papers to purchase a condo in downtown Abbotsford. We've been thinking of doing this for quite a while now, but realizing that we have a baby coming finally made us act. At the end of this month we will be moving out of our cramped 1 bedroom suite, into a 2 bedroom 2 bathroom place that will be our own. It's going to be alot of work, especially since we are going to have to do quite a bit of renovations before we even move in, but we are both up to the challenge, and are excited about the possibilities. This weekend we spent 2 days helping Erik and Jamie paint and lay laminate in their suite, and it got us looking forward to doing work in our own place.

We didn't work the entire weekend however. Doug and I managed to take in a great hockey game in Vancouver last night. It was the Flames vs. the Canucks, and we were definitely outnumbered by Canucks fans. Luckily, our team won. It was a great game, and the Flames took the Canucks 3 to 2.

Doug managed to capture a few shots of the game. Let me mention, that I was the one to buy the tickets for him. They are not easy to get out here, but I managed to find some. It was well worth the price!

Here's the view from our seats.

Doug was quite excited to zoom in and get a shot of his favorite Calgary player.

Well, I think that's all the news I have for now!

An Update...

It's been a while since my last post, and since I got to work early this morning, I decided it was time for a quick update. Right now we are already in week 16 of this pregnancy. It's incredible how fast it goes by. While it's been fun to experience having a baby, I must admit that I am looking forward to the end already! Yesterday as I was driving home from work I had this incredible realization... in five months, I won't be pregnant anymore! I got so excited for some reason, at the thought that I will eventually have my body back and feel normal again. At times you just forget that this will not last forever!
Fortunately though, I have been feeling pretty good lately. I haven't been that sick in the past few months, and I am starting to feel a bit better every day. I am starting to get my energy back, and I no longer go to bed at 8:30 each night! Now I can stay up to at least 10. The biggest new development is my food consumption. I have never, never, been so hungry in all my life. No matter what I eat, or how much, I can never feel full. At times I almost feel like crying at work, when I just finish my third breakfast for the morning, and I realize it's only 10:00 am, and I have 2 hours to go until lunch! The girls that I work with have been great, they are always bringing snack for me and enticing me into their offices with promises of chocolate and candy. Doug has also been wonderful. He makes my lunch each morning before I head off to work, and has been mindful of my increasing appetite. It's been getting more and more hilarious each morning, as the lunches he makes for me get larger and larger. This morning I thought there was a full bag of groceries sitting on the kitchen table, and then I realized it was my lunch for the day! It's amazing that I don't weigh 300 pounds.
Well, I think that's all I have to share right now. I'll try to put some new pictures on in the next week and continue to give you all an update!
Happy Spring everyone!

Yes Folks... It's True!

I'm sure that many of you have already heard the news that Doug and I are expecting! It's not recent news anymore however. I have definitely been neglecting this blog lately (Sorry Jamie and Rosanna!) My sisters out in Edmonton have been begging me lately for pictures, so I thought that I should get on the ball and make this announcement to the blogging world! I'm sure that many of you have tons of questions, so I'll try my best to answer.

1. When is the baby due? The official due date is September 1st. We were a little unsure of the actual due date, since this baby was a bit of a surprise. The ultrasound confirmed the date however, so we should have a baby late August or early September (which unfortunately means I will be very pregnant in the heat of summer). As of this weekend I am 14 weeks pregnant!
2. Were we trying? Well, kind of. Let's just say we decided to stop being careful one day to see what would happen, and the next month we realized that there was a baby!
3. How have I been feeling? For the most part, I haven't it too bad. A little sick in the mornings when I first get up, but as long as I keep eating, I don't feel nauseous. However, I have been extremely tired. I've started going to bed at about 9 pm each night, and sometimes earlier. Friday nights are the worst after a long week of work.
4. Am I getting fat? You bet! I've already started out growing some of pants, and getting dressed for work each morning is starting to become a challenge. I'm in that horrible in-between stage of being too big for my regular clothes, but too small for maternity clothes.

I think that's all I've got right now! If anyone has any other questions, I'll do my best to answer them! And finally, (Trish & Ang) here's the pics of my new haircut (which is now 2 months old) and my new body!

I Win...

Just for today, I think I can claim the title of the "best wife in the world". (according to Doug anyway.) For months Doug has been talking about how he really, really wants to get an electric guitar. Whenever I would ask him what he wanted for Christmas he would say an electric guitar, but I always said it would definitely be out of our price range. However, since his birthday and Christmas are so close, I decided to go for it. About a month and a half ago, Nate (Doug's brother) helped me pick out the perfect one, a Les Paul Epiphone. Well, Doug was certainly speechless. We wrapped up the guitar strings, and when he open them he just kept saying "no, no, you didn't." He was in disbelief. Here is a picture of the two of us enjoying his new gift.
As you may have already guessed, tonight was the Toews' family Christmas. Micah was very excited to help Keziah celebrate her first Christmas. Micah was also a great helper tonight. Not only did he distribute everyone's gifts, but also helped us unwrap all of them. (I must admit though, he did have a tough time giving up some of the gifts to their rightful owners.)

Here's one last picture of Doug and I. Happy (early) Christmas to everyone!!!

The Life Centre

As many of you know, Doug and I have been busy over the past few months with a new church plant called The Life Centre! We are on the core team of people who are in the process of starting an intercultural church here in Abbotsford. Well, the countdown is on... our kick off Sunday is just four weeks away. The website for the church is now up and running, so I thought I would post the address in case any of you are interested in taking a look. Here it is:

www.thelc.net

Let me know what you think!

Happy to be at Work!!!

Well folks, I never thought I'd live to see the day that I would be excited to be at work-- but it's come. I am so happy to finally be working today! I thought I was going to go crazy yesterday. After being snowed in for 2 days I finally ran out of things to do. I did 4 loads of laundry, decorated my house for Christmas, baked muffins, baked cupcakes, made a huge meal for supper, cleaned my house from top to bottom, then organized it from top to bottom, and then I was bored. It was so nice to get up this morning with a purpose! However, I am swamped today with half a week's worth of work piled up for me to do! The forecast does not look promising for tomorrow, more snow and bad driving conditions, so this may be the only day I have at work this week! Does anyone have any suggestions of what I can do tomorrow, in case I'm stranded at home again?

Meet Our Niece Keziah

This week was a special one for Doug and I as we finally got to meet our new niece, Keziah Katherine Toews!!! At about 9:30pm on Wednesday night we got the phone call to come to the hospital where we were intoduced to beautiful Keziah. Since then our days have been filled with many hours watching and holding our new niece. We love you Keziah!

Here I am meeting Keziah for the first time! Isn't she precious?

Here's Doug with little Keziah!

This morning we all woke up to a blizzard in Abbotsford. We all made it to church this morning, but then barely made it to Doug's parent's house for lunch! The boys got called up the hill at one point to help push Mom and Dad Toews' car up the hill! Since then it has snowed about 46 cms, and is still going strong. It's starting to look like Doug and I may be snowed in here for the night, so we may be having a sleep over all together! I also may not be heading into work tomorrow morning if this keeps up! The boys of the house however, decided to enjoy the great outdoors by hanging out in the hot tub! Doesn't it look like fun?